“The habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of outward conditions.” Robert Louis Stevenson
Substitute “thing” with what you want . . . .
A few months ago, I was in hot pursuit of something that I valued tremendously. I constantly told myself that if only I were to get that thing I wanted then I would be happy. It made so much sense. I know how big this thing was and I knew that it made others happy when they got it so it must be the source of their happiness. I envisioned myself with this thing and it made me happy.
Well, as fortune would have it, I actually obtained that thing I so wanted. And surprisingly to me, I was relieved, grateful, peaceful, but not comparatively happier.
After reflecting on this phenomenon, I came to the self-reflective conclusion that the state of my heart had not changed and it wouldn’t change no matter how implausible the thing I wanted. In other words, I could have won the lottery, a new pair of skis, received a 4.0 and it would not have made a difference on my heart. Sure, after obtaining this very good thing, I felt an alliviance of pressure off my shoulders, I felt peaceful and grateful but the state of my heart had stayed the same.
How ever you are happy now, will dictate how happy you are then. You must find a more constant source of happiness. You decide to be happy now. Good or bad may come and it may come hard and fast. Other things may change but your heart will stay the same.
“Obviously there is a great difference between feeling happy at a given moment and being happy for a lifetime, between having a good time and leading a good life.” James Faust
“I may not be able to eliminate pornographic trash, but my family and I need not buy or view it. I may not be able to close disreputable businesses, but I can stay away from areas of questioned honor and ill repute. I may not be able to greatly reduce the divorces of the land or save all broken homes and frustrated children, but I can keep my own home a congenial one, my marriage happy, my home a heaven, and my children well adjusted. I may not be able to stop the growing claims to freedom from laws based on morals, or change all opinions regarding looseness in sex and growing perversions, but I can guarantee devotion to all high ideals and standards in my own home, and I can work toward giving my own family a happy, interdependent spiritual life. I may not be able to stop all graft and dishonesty in high places, but I myself can be honest and upright, full of integrity and true honor, and my family will be trained likewise. I may not be able to insure family prayers, home evening, meeting attendance, and spiritual, well-integrated lives in all my neighbors, but I can be certain that my children will be happy at home. They will grow strong and tall and realize their freedom is found at home, in their faith, in clean living, and in opportunity to serve. As Christ said, “And the truth shall make you free.” No virtues in the perfection we strive for are more important than integrity and honesty. Let us then be complete, unbroken, pure and sincere, to develop in ourselves that quality of soul we prize so highly in others.” Spencer W. Kimball